When I had my first daughter over 10 years ago, I had no clue about parenting, I knew about the feeding, changing , sleeping and everything else. The one thing that I didn't know about was how I was going to parent, the values I would teach her, how I was going to guide her into the pre teen she is today and onto the women she will become ...
I also didn't realise that the person I am today has been shaped by motherhood...
My gut instinct plays a big part on how I parent, if something doesn't feel right, they don't it....
The one thing that I struggle with is creating time to spend with the older girls on a one to one ...
I really need to work on this more...
As I hope creating this "special" time together will make a solid foundation for the future, I want them to be comfortable to come and talk to me about anything, I know there will be times when they need my support.
This past weekend, I did create time and whilst the middle two went to a friends to play, my oldest daughter and youngest went shopping, it was lovely to spend time just listening to her thoughts and opinions, that may usually be drowned out by the other girls ...
We even went for ice cream too !!
This "date" made me realise that I need to do this! At least once a month with each of them..
So here are a few random thoughts on parenting, how about you ? Do you schedule time in for you children, are you lead by the books, or your gut?
I would love to hear your thoughts ..
Love
It's so hard with multiple children to make individual time for each, but when you do it is extra special for them and you! When I find I am losing touch with one of my kids I try to make a real effort to sit down and have some personal time with him/her. Nothing big - just time to talk and cuddle. Within minutes we are both "refreshed" with love and ready to go on with our exciting lives.
ReplyDeleteHello :)
ReplyDeleteYou are right have a few children makes it difficult to spend quality time with each !!
Cuddles are great for re-connecting ! Great advice
Claire x
Lovely post. I'm a believer that all things can be found in a book, my ole training still guides me, lol. That said, I read a fair bit before my son was born once I met I'm I soon realised he's not read the book and is not 'playing by the book'. I threw them out and now I follow my gut along with pointers from lovely mums that I know.
ReplyDeleteThank you !
ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing your thoughts :)
Claire x